Answer Carefully

We have lost a business deal and it was because of my hasteness to answer an mail.  It is thus important to always remind myself to answer things carefully!

高皓正

由「不要驚動愛情」到「愛情開花結果」──祝福高皓正夫婦
關啟文（香港浸會大學宗哲系副教授/香港性文化學會主席）

相信不少人都認識藝人高皓正，他最近也有在無線劇集《老公萬歲》擔任阿孝的角色，去色誘心姐，但其實只是臥底警探的任務。又或者大家也在新聞看到他在3月7日結婚的消息，先在這裡祝他新婚快樂！或者先click入以下link睇片，聽聽高皓正填詞和主唱的一首歌《不要驚動愛情》：

 http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Sa-RagUxD6g&feature=player_embedded
高皓正 - 不要驚動愛情
曲/編 - 歐陽業俊
詞/唱 - 高皓正

Verse I
很想輕撫你 所以避開你
寧願用距離 去令你好奇
迴避過眼神 先偷偷喘氣
吩咐手臂 放在原地
傳聞浪漫太快 愛戀都走得快
才會 遲遲未步向你 說一世愛護你

Chorus I
情太過洶湧像深海 而我卻會忍耐
但求來日你醒過來
這份情像翅膀打開
還沒有相擁別意外 神教會我等待
待情流像細水 才去承諾你
拿一生兌換愛

Verse II
很心急擁抱 所以在禱告
求甜蜜以前 帶著你慢步
遊歷過旅途 等一天終老
生老病死 一起細數
原來慢慢靠近 更珍惜這一吻
而我 停留是為了你 要給予你護蔭

Chorus II
能為愛戀學習按捺 情信寄進心內
但求能學會倚靠神
愛被馴服過更精采
連地老天荒亦不更改 時間永遠等待
等你情願那天 才去承諾你
無止境那份愛
我用沈默叫醒愛情 你用期待做你反應
繼續行近直至開始愛

然後可再看高皓正的自白：

 http://www.vdonext.com/index.php?fuseaction=Features.Archive&channel_id=543210&program_id=664800
　　我認識高皓正只有個多月，我曾邀請他到我浸會大學的通識課與大學生分享他的經歷，我相當欣賞他的坦率，而他的反省也有深度。作為年青藝人，高皓正承認他的成長也受到主流傳媒的價值影響，所以很愛拍拖，也經常和女孩子上床。然而有一次終於因攪多角關係闖出禍，被人追斬，嚴重受傷，也在醫院住了好幾個月。他說：真的，若刀刺的位置移過幾寸，他可能要喪命。他經這教訓後才痛定思痛，重拾基督教信仰，在神面前領受了貞潔的重要性，也經常到不同地方分享，對不少年輕人有很大幫助。而他寫的《不要驚動愛情》正正是反映他新的愛情觀，不少同學都說這歌很動聽和感人。鄭秀文也在她最近的大碟裡翻唱這首歌，也相當受歡迎。

　　不少年青人都覺得基督教的性倫理很「娘」、很土，有一個女大學生告訴我，她感到二十來歲還未「破處」，實在有點羞家。然而當他們看到一些年青藝人甚或天后級的偶像也願意持守貞潔，他們是驚訝的，也有一些同學說高皓正的分享改變了他的看法。

　　當然最重要的不是要跟風，而是要明白貞潔背後的意義，就是對人、對性和對愛情的尊重。正正因為性並不污穢，是上帝給我們寶貴的禮物，我們才應好好珍惜。我聽高皓正分享時，感到他對這點有相當透徹的體會。很多人都說食色性也，他卻看到性慾與食慾的不同，他用這比喻：他曾經陷溺色情網頁，一看就是幾個小時，但我們會看別人把漢堡飽弄來弄去幾個小時嗎？這段話在課堂上令不少同學忍悛不住。他也反省他已與女性有性行為，為何還無限追逐網上色情的刺激？他說：是他裡面出了問題。他也曾經以為性交沒甚麼大不了，然而卻料不到這差點要了他的命。

　　這一切告訴我們，若把性與真摯愛情和婚姻中的委身結合起來，我們的人生不是貧乏，而是更豐盛；若無限追逐性慾，反而會扭曲人格、關係，甚或招來惡果。高皓正所填的詞反映他真實的經歷，他曾體驗「情太過洶湧像深海」，甚至有沒頂之災，後來神教會他「忍耐」和「等待」，到今天高皓正的等待終於有成果了，他去到壇前「承諾」，「拿一生兌換愛」！讓我們祝福這對新人幸福快樂！

有關高皓正結婚的報導：

高皓正教堂幸福舉行婚禮 一班基督徒藝人朋友到賀 (基督日報)2010年03月10日
 http://www.gospelherald.com.hk/news/cul_1370.htm

高皓正自彈自唱搞喊太太 (星島日報)2010年3月8日
 http://hk.news.yahoo.com/article/100308/3/gwrx.html

高皓正 英雄救美娶俏醫生 (蘋果日報)2010年03月08日
 http://hk.apple.nextmedia.com/realtime/art_main.php?&iss_id=20100308&sec_id=7018882&art_id=13797928

Brain Tumor Recur

Noted that Ka Chi's brain tumor recurs and it sinks my heart, as I do not know how many operations that he is capable to have.

In today's appledaily, I found a news about a boy, who have multiple brain tumors operation and the tumors eventually go away.  I believed that it is a sign to remind me to have faith to The Lord.  As the bible said, 'The Lord knows how much hair we have and we are more valuable than the sparrow.'

I have thought of fasting and have thought of asking the family members to fast with me for Ka Chi's case.

One Year Review and count the blessings - 2007

1. Family -

What a year in 2007!  During this year, our beloved father passed away at 05 May.  It seemed to us that he did go through an agonizing three days before he died.  As an retrorespect, we three sons are not good sons though, paying little attention to him and only maintained him a mere standard of living in the past.  It was perhaps all three of us are those that care things, rather than relationships; all three of us, except Raymond, would like to pursue achievement, instead of pursue a harmonious relationship.  Reminding myself after that, I will no longer leave my familes unattended.  Though I love them truly, I need to, from time to time, pray to The Lord to remind me to love and care them more than I used to be.

Raymond's brain tumor recurs at August.  Though the operation, conducted in Queen's Mary by Dr. Hung, was successful, the rate of recur made us worried since it was about 1.5 year since his last recurrence.  Just before the end of the year, the MRI scan reflected anew that, at the same position at the right brain, it showed a 1cm tumor growing.  We pray to The Lord that Raymond be fully recovered and remained our faith to The Lord that He will lead us through.

2. Work and Investment -

The business turns out a lower double-digit growth.  Compared with a strong growth in the stock and property market in Hong Kong this year, the growth in our business is not that spectacular.  However, it was supremely good when compared with other market players, especially one of the largest players closed down that despoiled the whole market environment.  We are thankful to The Lord and we always remind ourselves that we are simply a manager, not owner, of our work and hope that we could continually use what we do to glorify Him.

One of my admired trader, Larry Williams, made the whole year forecast for the worldwide stock market.  As his fans, I used a portion of my money to invest his trend that made me suffer.  It was because that his prediction comes exactly a month later.  It made me aware that speculation does not fit me and I need to remind myself it is important not to speculate, but to invest.

It comes an opportunity that we bought two apartments in Causeway Bay (from an auction) and in Quarry Bay that is used to accommodate Raymond and Shirley.  It is aghast to note that, 60 days after our purchase, the value of the apartment in Quarry Bay raised by almost 30%.  It is hard to say whether it is a bubble.  On the other hand, the high rise in the property and stock market wields an effect to distract me and other Hong Kong people from carrying out the daily work.  As we planned to relocate to an seaview apartment in Hong Kong side, we are surprised to find that a 40+ year, ragged apartment that closed to the victoria harbour costs over $8,000 per square feet.  Anyhow, both my wife and I are happy to settle in our current home.

Three Students, three lessons

Three Lessons from Three Students

On Nov 20, 2007, our tuition centre had three students enrolled and this is the largest number of students enrolled in a single date since our opening a month ago.

During that month, it seemed that the number of students did not turn out as we expected and it comes on the lower end of our estimation and we experienced a little nadir during then.  The three new students enrolled, as they are from different channels, was indeed an encouragement to us and most of all, I learnt three invaluable lessons from that.

Lesson 1 - "Patience' from student A

Do not get disappointed when you do not get the result right away.  The first "student A" came from past free seminar, that we held regularly in order to get more students to know us.  On that particular free seminar, I remembered that there are total 4 students enrolled and "Student A" is one of them.  As we did our best to prepare for the seminar content, none of them enrolled our course eventually.  This is quite an anticlimax as we thought we did our work good enough and our offer was attractive that at least some of them enrol.

Unexpectedly, "student A" came back to enrol our course after 4 full weeks.  From this event, I learnt "patience", one of the spiritual fruit, and this reminds me of preaching to others.  From time to time, I label someone as "unsavable" and will simply let go and do not really care to share the gospel with those friends.  From that lesson I know I have got to preach to others and wait patiently as I do not know when that seeds will grow in their hearts.

Lesson 2 - "Quality does count" from student B

"Student B" is a referral - This reminds me when we are doing our job, the results will turn out sweet.

Lesson 3 - "Always doing quality work" from student C

"Student C" enrolled after attending our free seminar, a seminar that have only one students attended.  Even though there are only one student, PKeung still prepares well and conducts a full-hour lesson as usual and eventually that student enrolled.  PKeung's behaviour encourages and reminds me, under any circumstances, that we should do our quality work and do not hasten to finish when the environment looks bleak. 

On the other hand, a parable from also comes to my mind, "If a man has a hundred sheep, and one of the them has gone astray, does he not leave the ninty-nine on the hills and go in search of the one that went astray?  And if he finds it, truly, I say to you, he rejoices over it more than over the ninety-nine that never went astray" Matthew 18:12-13.  For me, no matter how many students come to our free seminar, even one of them enrolled is an acknowledgement to our works.